Days since cutting: 120 Days since purging: 177
no no love you didnt do anything wrong! all you were doing was being the person that you are, and that’s the best person that you can be! you’re a smart, beautiful, kind, unique and loving individual who is so so so important, regardless of whether or not a guy breaks up with you. just because you endured a break up, it doesn’t mean that you did or said anything wrong at all! it just means that he no longer wanted the type of relationship that you had. you even told me that he still wants to be friends, so there cant possibly be anything wrong with you! don’t take it personally love.
let’s think of this from a general perspective- imagine that you for some reason wanted to break up with your partner, but you felt guilty. you think and think and think of what to say and then you finally summon up the courage to say something. you feel guilty about having possibly hurt their feelings. then you walk past them at school- would you feel comfortable seeing them after you may have hurt their feelings? would you be able to pretend that nothing happened? what if you hurt their feelings more by pretending like nothing happened? perhaps he acted the way he did out of fear of not knowing what to do- fear of making the both of you feel uncomfortable. he may have just not known what to say, so he said nothing to avoid saying the wrong thing. or, he may have just not noticed you. either way, it’s best not to overthink these little things, because as you see, it does more harm for us than good! so, let’s try to move on from it and make ourselves feel a lot better!
i know he said that he wanted to remain friends, but if you feel like a friendship with him would keep you from moving on, then you have a right to limit yourself from talking to him. dont get me wrong, im not telling you to ice him out completely, im just warning you about trying to become closer to him again, because that could really play with your feelings. of course if he wants to be closer friends, that’s up to you to make the decision in regards to whether or not it’ll help you. remember that in life, with any relationship, if it’s doing you more harm than good, then it’s a sign that you shouldn’t have that relationship in your life. prioritise you. prioritise your recovery and your happiness. it’s important that you focus on your needs, your interests, your health, and your closest companions in life, rather than the breakup, or whatever happened with him after. getting stuck in the past wont help us to move on from it love.
so, how do we move on from the past? personally, i believe it comes down to creating a new future for ourselves. this begins in the present, where we make our own dreams and aspirations, we work sequentially to achieve our goals and do everything in a step-by-step fashion. become immersed in your life to the point where you’re preoccupied, you’re excited about the future, and you love living and breathing. find what’s important to you and dedicate your life to that. don’t live for others who could just as easily leave your life. live for the purpose that you’ve created for yourself. set your goals, explore different interests and pathways you may want to take, establish connections with new people, get to know others and let them get to know you. concentrate on your studies and your education, and experiment with your strongest subjects and areas of high interest. give yourself frequent breaks and some time to just de-stress by yourself each day. have hobbies and safe venting outlets that you enjoy. and most importantly, just give yourself time. time to work things out, time to feel emotions and let them pass, time to move on, time to recover. to be completely honest, you’re probably not going to wake up one day and feel completely better- and that’s okay, it’s because you’re not meant to. we’re not born knowing everything, we have to attain knowledge through life experience and hardship. this is your learning experience, so it’s up to you to turn it into a positive one, rather than seeing things in the negative. after all, it’ll do you a lot more good to just look on the bright side!
so love, please dont overthink this, because we dont really know what his intention was, and it could’ve just been an honest mistake! the people who i talk to at school do that to me all the time, but i still talk to them with no harsh feelings! it’s normal to overstress about a simple situation like this, so remember that the reason why you may think it’s so bad is because our minds naturally exaggerate a situation out of our own anxiety. it’s just a coping mechanism. so please take a deep breath, relax, and try to focus on something new. turn over a new leaf, and be a whole new you, who’s now even stronger! best wishes<3
OMFG YES I AM POSTING THIS LETS START THIS PEOPLE CMON GO GO GOOOOOOO
PROPOSE ALREADY RIAN
No problem! Haha yeah I did :( it literally felt like I was chewing nothing, it was so gross. Not to mention it was dry :( I mean I can’t cook to save my life but hey even I could’ve done a better joB CMON I mean I probably would’ve burnt it cause I always burn food bUT STILL
Sigh I wanted to go to the shops and buy all the cheap Easter chocolate (421 raid it- I’m so funny) bc it’s after Easter but I can’t today sigh and I need to shower so bad (u didn’t need to know that) (or maybe u did) (I’ll just say I’m tryna rock the grunge look) (swaggy~)